If men can’t listen to...
Learning how to be a better option than the bear. If men can’t listen to women, LGBTQ+, minorities, or anyone with a different perspective, then maybe they can listen to another man’s journey to become a better listener by having a conversation with these people and maybe meet some intriguing people along the way. This podcast is meant for everyone who wanders in with an open mind, from skeptics looking to better understand their fellow citizens, to the mildly curious looking for personal growth, all the way through die-hard feminists and activists; anyone who wants to work together towards understanding and making the world a better place. Social media - BlueSky, Instagram, Threads, and Facebook - Ifmencantlistento Email - shane@ifmencantlistento.com
Episodes

4 days ago
Episode 8 - Florence - Average Seattlite
4 days ago
4 days ago
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man having a conversation with someone who can summon birds to land on her hands.
From the guest:
My name is Florence and I am an artist, naturalist, early childhood educator, and a typical polyamorous Seattlite. In this episode my ADHD and I talk about how biology affects my worldview, how much I hate strip malls, and how I want to be treated as a persona and not just a woman.
From the host:
Surprise guest appearances by my cat and the omnipresent whirring of my 3D printer (my apologies!).
The lecture mentioned in the episode, Eve's Byte of the Apple - Sandi Toksvig
https://youtu.be/UG6Ier4UC_8?si=OtRLI8woiyhRllwb

Sunday Mar 30, 2025
Episode 7 - Eve - Squeezing lemons
Sunday Mar 30, 2025
Sunday Mar 30, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man listening to someone on their journey to becoming openly the authentic woman they have always been. I talk with Eve about music, transitioning, emancipating one's true self from societal demands, music, the selfishness of trans-panic, acts of persistence and mantra; squeezing lemons, and also music! So much so that there's a companion playlist for this episode at:
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4vMqzYS2sszuKfslzP2Lgo?si=2be67ec4b0134f6f
Links discussed in the episode:
https://www.instagram.com/transequalitynow/
https://www.instagram.com/aclu_nationwide/
https://www.instagram.com/humanrightscampaign/
https://www.instagram.com/pointofprideorg/
https://www.instagram.com/plannedparenthood/
https://www.instagram.com/ppglobe/
https://www.instagram.com/trans_week/
https://www.amazon.com/Candy-Darling-Dreamer-Icon-Superstar/dp/1250371740

Monday Mar 24, 2025
Episode 6, part 2/2 - Amber Mason - Evolving parenting with empathy
Monday Mar 24, 2025
Monday Mar 24, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man listening to Amber talk about parenting, masculinity, and femininity evolving through empathy. The conversation wanders on many wonderful tangential journeys through psychology, history, learning being an infinite journey through life, dating, and solving disconnections in communication between genders.
Links from the podcast:
https://www.instagram.com/amber.overthinking/
https://www.instagram.com/fairplaylife
https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute
https://developingchild.harvard.edu/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/The-Science-of-Resilience2.pdf
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0684838656?bestFormat=true
https://www.instagram.com/thejeffreymarsh
https://www.instagram.com/alokvmenon

Friday Mar 21, 2025
Episode 6, part 1/2 - Amber Mason - Evolving parenting with empathy
Friday Mar 21, 2025
Friday Mar 21, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man listening to Amber talk about parenting, masculinity, and femininity evolving through empathy. The conversation wanders on many wonderful tangential journeys through psychology, history, learning being an infinite journey through life, dating, and solving disconnections in communication between genders.
Links from the podcast:
https://www.instagram.com/amber.overthinking/
https://www.instagram.com/fairplaylife
https://www.instagram.com/gottmaninstitute
https://developingchild.harvard.edu/wp-content/uploads/2024/10/The-Science-of-Resilience2.pdf
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0684838656?bestFormat=true

Thursday Feb 27, 2025
Episoide 5 - Zoe Larkey - Without shame
Thursday Feb 27, 2025
Thursday Feb 27, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man having a conversation with Zoe Larkey - a survivor advocate, founder of the It Will Pass project, and member of It's On Us. We talk about reclaiming life, joy, and safety after an assault, the workings of Title IX, preventive college campus resources, and... avocados?
You can find Zoe on Instagram @zoeraelarkey and @itwillpassproject and Zoe Larkey on LinkedIn
Links and resources:
https://itsonus.org/
https://endrapeoncampus.org/
https://www.nsvrc.org/
https://takebackthenight.org/

Saturday Feb 22, 2025
Saturday Feb 22, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man listening to Nicole Davenport of the podcast "Great in the sack: when misogyny leads to mayhem". Nicole's podcast approaches the inaction in solving misogyny and femocide by bearing witness through storytelling to the way the world uses women and girls as expendable objects. We dive into the mechanisms of insecurity, incel culture, and lifting each other up instead of tearing our perceived competition down, and how the competition itself originates in downward manipulation.
You can find Nicole's podcast in all of the major podcast distributors and on social media:
Instagram - @great_in_the_sack_podcast - https://www.instagram.com/great_in_the_sack_podcast/
TikTok - @greatinthesackpodcast - https://www.tiktok.com/@greatinthesackpodcast
Bluesky - https://bsky.app/profile/greatinthesackpod.bsky.social

Saturday Feb 08, 2025
Episode 3 - Speak up, don't speak over
Saturday Feb 08, 2025
Saturday Feb 08, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe they can listen to a man listening to Colleen - also known as "The Abortionfluencer" on social media - discussing reproductive rights, when (and how) supportive men should step up, and when they should step back to center and amplify women's voices. Plus, a deep dive into leftist and resistance collaboration, working around social media algorithms that are preferential to and programmed by the right-wing, and how to win the messaging war.
Find Colleen on TikTok, Instagram, Mastadon, and Threads as @theabortionfluencer and on Bluesky as @abortionfluencer.bsky.social.

Friday Jan 24, 2025
Episode 2 - In their authenticity
Friday Jan 24, 2025
Friday Jan 24, 2025
If men can't listen to women, maybe men can listen to a man having a conversation with Brown about unconventional thinking, addressing intellectual dismissiveness, how we move forward not only as individuals but as a society, the book she's writing giving guidance on love and relationships, and many side-quest tangents. Find her online at @brown19170 on most social media.

Friday Jan 10, 2025
Episode 1 - Be Curious
Friday Jan 10, 2025
Friday Jan 10, 2025
If a man can't listen to women, maybe he can listen to a man listening to his mother talk about being a woman succeeding in the 1990s tech boom, changing careers, and somehow winding up back in tech.